Because the weddings ideas post seems to have gone over amazingly well. :D No snarky comments from relatives even...I'm shocked. ;)
I saw this article the day after I wrote the last post, which reminded me of one other wedding apparel expense. Bridemaids' dresses and whatever the groom and groomsmen are going to wear...and does it have to be tuxes? Well, for the groom, I mean. Sure, if my future husband wants to wear a tux, I'd be fine with it, but it seems a little unnecessary. I would think most guys would be perfectly happy to just wear a regular suit, right?
Bridesmaids dresses...hmm. Not sure about that one. A lot of it would depend on who I picked for bridesmaids probably. In general though, I wouldn't expect them to have to have identical dresses, just the same color perhaps? Which might be just as difficult...unless I went with black. In which case I would shock both my grandmothers, and possibly my parents.
As far as whether you should spend a lot (or a decent amount) on a wedding because it's only one day, or not spend much on it because it's only one day, I think there's a balance somewhere in the middle. Yes, it is a very special day, and you want it to be nice, and memorable, and you want it to not just be thrown together and coming across simply as a means to an end that unfortunately has to involve fluffy dresses and cake. :) On the other hand, I'm not big on flashy stuff, or all the little fiddly things that have to accessorize a wedding. Nor should it be such a big deal that it stresses everyone involved and overshadows the fact that you're getting married. You don't want people to come see your "wedding" you want them to see you get married. So yeah, somewhere in the middle there. A simple wedding, with meaning behind it, after all weddings are symbolic.
I'm happily pleased to see that I'm not the only girl who has her wedding dress already too. :D Or, at least a possible dress, leaving open the possibility of changing our minds. I wish I could remember how much I paid for mine, but I bought it, oh...probably about four years ago. Since that was before I started working, I doubt I would have paid much for it. Somewhere between $30 and $50 maybe. It's a vintage Gunne Sax brand dress (70's maybe?), ivory/cream lace, and I just found the same one online on some vintage clothing website that sold for $150. I know I didn't pay that much! No, it's not white, but I don't really feel like wedding dresses have to be white...and I look equally pale and washed out in cream or white, so it's a no-win situation. :) Although if it was a spring or summer wedding...I might want white...and short sleeves...hmm. I guess I can hope fall would work out...I like fall best anyway.
I was looking at some of the modest wedding dress sites and I really didn't find a whole lot that I liked better. And they were all expensive! Most wedding dresses are too frilly. Yes, I know, they're supposed to be. But I'm not a really frilly sort of girl. Feminine clothes, yes; frilly, no. And no, lace isn't always frilly.
And I know where it would be neat to have the wedding, provided there weren't too many people to squish in...but if there were I'm sure there are lots of pretty churches around here. Moravian churches usually look nice. Outdoors, like Jessica said, sounds kinda nice, but fraught with peril as well. :D Rain, heat, cold...I like the outdoors, but not so much when I'm dressed up. lol
Anyway, just a few other thoughts I had...and it made me realize that a lot of this stuff would have to be rethought and possibly revised when the time comes. I try to be accommodating...I wouldn't want to have a whole list of totally inflexible plans that I shoved on everybody. Hmm, in general I'm flexible about things, I guess. I have ideas, but they can change...and if it's an opinion or idea that won't change for whatever reason (plain stubbornness or belief) you'll know. :)
Which reminds me of something else I was thinking of the other day (and I can't remember if I've said this before, it's sounds vaguely familiar) but I think we woman (or I at least) tend to change our opinion more often than men because we state our opinion more quickly. Or our first opinion anyway. Then after more thinking about it, we may change our minds, and state a differing opinion. On the other hand...guys are fairly quiet until they have their opinion set and then they state it (if they see fit), as opposed to going off on a tangent about something and then changing their mind the next day. So by the time they've stated their opinion it's firmly fixed as their opinion....at which point they will loudly give it to you. Or quietly, depending on the guy. And I have experience with both among my family... And I'm sure this doesn't hold true for all men, or all women, but it seems like in general that's how it works. (I'm thinking I said this to someone, or on here before...hopefully to someone, so I'm only repeating myself once.)
And now I'm rambling. Ask me tomorrow if my opinion changed. ;)
Hey! It's a month till my birthday! Yikes.